The other day was a total loss. Nothing was going as planned. Even the horoscope section in the newspaper warned, “Finish up that project  and put it to rest. Expect change in a big way. The old stuff is leaving to make way for the new. Do not resist.”

A smarter person might have gone back to bed.

Change happened alright and it was big. This very site crashed and I made a spectacle with my screaming and foul language. Thankfully, my dogs were the only witnesses. Obviously everything is okay now. Yup, new site and the good news, I found a few old blog posts saved to my hard drive.

Growth happens during difficult events like this and often, great new things are born. Though, when you’re in the middle of a crisis, nothing feels good. Here are 5 things you can do to take back your power and get on track when you’re faced with disaster.

• Release the emotion- cry, scream, swear, be upset. Releasing emotion is an important part of healing. You’re human and allowed to get upset. Punching a pillow or ripping up phone-books are good releases.
• Get a new perspective- walk away. Go outside. Take a drive, walk or bath. Do some deep breathing (go slow, you don’t want to hyperventilate).
• Eat a good meal- the nutrition will help you think clearly so you can make good decisions. Brain and body work better when the belly is full.
• Use a life line & call a friend- talking with a friend will help you release frustration and gain understanding.
• Get back at it! Now that you had some downtime get back to solving the issue at hand or dealing with the problem.

Some of the best dreaming we can do is daydreaming.

So when was the last time you took time to daydream?

No matter- it’s time to do it again.

This is very important work!

Daydreaming can give you ideas for a direction, plan or purpose.

Dream BIG! Be outrageous, kooky, bold.

Write, write, write it down on paper or in a journal but save it somewhere safe.

Going forward, this manifesto becomes a very important document! VERY!

Later you will discover ideas hidden in the dream – things for you to use.

You may find answers to questions or solve a problem and

daydreaming is relaxing, which is good for your health too.

Some thoughts to get you started:

Who are you/ who do you want to be?

What are some of your biggest wishes?

Who/what is your secret alter ego?

If you had unlimited amounts of money and nothing to hold you back, what would you do ?

Sweet dreams.

Please feel free to share your dreams in the comments below.

Guest post by: Samantha Honey-Pollock a UK based feng shui expert, health coach & holistic therapist. Find more of the ideas she cherishes and wants to share with you here Feng Shui by the Sea

“Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting –
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.”

-Mary Oliver, Wild Geese.

Have you, like me, discovered a deep and world-resilient joy from meeting like-minded friends online? If so, I know you’ll feel connected to my sharing here. It’s lovely to meet you, by the way! Perhaps we were meant to be connected…

Since meeting Stacy, I’ve been able to take my understanding of the word “family” to a wonderful new level of consciousness- beyond who we share our home with, those we see on the holidays, who we speak to on the phone or even to who we write emails and letters to.

I count myself & Stacy as family in the harsh and exciting world of social media- a silver web as invisible & strong as the spider’s weave. From regarding her comments, her responses to mine, moments browsing where I spotted her status and feel goosebumps of resonation, her tumblr pics- eerily familiar in an I think I’ve dreamed these before kind of way… it’s become a spider web of ever embracing familiarity.

It was through Mary Oliver’s poem this familiarity was sealed; as, one night, we echoed back and forth via messenger lines from the poem “Wild Geese”; each quietly thrilled that the other knew it by heart as it was so dear to herself.

We are oceans apart, may never meet. But I trust Stacy with my heart as I would family. I hope she does me, too: it’s a little understanding that’s bound by all we have in common, an unspoken, invisible promise to continually love and uplift one another. We won’t always be present- heck, one of us might even decide to go offline permanently (shudder at the thought)! But like family; we are Always. Out there. Somewhere. Pure benevolence. High in the clean blue air.

“You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting –
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.”

-Mary Oliver, Wild Geese.